Blaming Others - Insights From a Motivational Speaker

Sir Edmund Hillary* told me this 40 years ago in a little village in the Himalayas.

*He was the first person to climb My Everest

‘Stop blaming people for where you are and take responsibility for where you are going.’

He explained it to me like this, and I have never forgotten.

"If you fall into the habit of yielding power to circumstances if you say things like you don’t understand my situation is different; you don’t understand I have no choice in the matter..

then you are divesting yourself

of agency

of authority

of self-determination

You are 'literally' giving your power away. (He acted this out) Here, I give >> my power over >>>to you... and if you give your power away, you are powerless and powerless people become victims and he said, I never met a person with a victim mindset who lived the full life they wanted to live."

And this has become the inescapable truth for me too. Every person I ever met who did things they never thought they could do, said ...

-it may take longer

-it may be harder

-I might need to find a different path

-I might need to make my own rules

but it’s up to me to find a way.

They took ownership and the moment you decide to take ownership is when *SNAP* the magic happens. As any three-year-old will tell you, if I don’t want to you can’t make me but if I’ve decided to you can’t stop me.

So as sh*tty as it seems, stop blaming people for where you are and take responsibility for where you are going and feel yourself back in control. NOW you are in a much better position to make your situation better.

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If we haven’t met yet…

I never considered myself good at change until I went from

-free-range kid to army sniper

-home movies to National Geographic cameraman

-fumbling card tricks to a professional magician

-never swinging a hammer to building a home

-high school dropout to published author

-business illiterate to building & selling a business

-stutterer to motivational speaker

Turns out I know how to change, I know how to make it simple, and I know how to stand on stage & make it fun so others want to do it too.

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