Feeling Stuck in Your Job? - Insights From a Motivational Speaker

What to Do When You Feel Stuck in Your Job – Insights from Susan David

We’ve all been there—trapped in a job that feels monotonous, weighed down by low-level stress, and wondering, How did I get here? In a compelling conversation on The James Altucher Show (Ep. 203), Harvard psychologist Dr. Susan David, author of Emotional Agility, unpacks why we stay stuck and how to break free.

Why We Stay Stuck

Dr. David explains that many of us live on autopilot, keeping a "safe distance" from our emotions. We show up, complete our tasks, and push through, but this detachment doesn’t keep us safe—it erodes our resilience.

One major reason we remain stuck is the narratives we internalize. These stories—taught by society, school, or past experiences—shape our beliefs about what’s possible. Some believe they’re “too old to change careers” or that “this is just how life is.” Over time, we unconsciously live into these stories, even when they no longer serve us.

The Cost of Over-Competence

David introduces the concept of “over-competence,” where people become so comfortable with their work that they stop growing. This stagnation isn’t just about career fulfillment—it affects brain health. Research on neuroplasticity shows that without continuous learning, brain connections weaken. The key to staying sharp and engaged? Embrace lifelong learning, even in small ways.

Practical Steps to Get Unstuck

Dr. David suggests starting with small but meaningful changes:

• Identify your values. What truly matters to you? Writing them down helps align your actions with what you care about.
• Challenge limiting beliefs. Ask yourself, Is this story I’m telling myself actually true? 
• Take micro-steps. Rather than making drastic changes, tweak your daily routine in ways that align with your values.

James Altucher references Anders Ericsson’s Peak: New Science of Expertise, emphasizing that if you’re not growing, you’re declining. The same applies to careers—staying in a learning mindset prevents stagnation.

The Power of Words

David highlights the importance of labeling emotions accurately. Saying “I’m stressed” is too broad. Are you stressed and frustrated? Stressed and uninspired? The more precise you are, the better you can address the root issue.

Social Contagion: Who You Surround Yourself With Matters

One fascinating insight is how our environment shapes us. Studies show we unconsciously adopt behaviors from those around us. If your colleagues feel stuck and uninspired, you’re likely to feel the same. The antidote? Surround yourself with people who challenge and uplift you.

The Role of Writing in Emotional Clarity

Research shows that writing about difficult experiences for just 20 minutes over three days leads to increased well-being and even better job prospects. Simply putting emotions into words helps process them and sparks change.

A Final Thought

“Life’s beauty is inseparable from its fragility,” says Dr. David. Careers change, emotions shift, and nothing stays the same. The key is emotional agility—the ability to acknowledge your emotions, adapt, and move forward. If you feel stuck, start with one small step today.

I learned a lot from this episode.

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If we haven’t met yet…

I never considered myself good at change until I went from

-average shot to army sniper

-home movies to National Geographic cameraman

-fumbling card tricks to a professional magician

-never swinging a hammer to building a home

-high school dropout to published author

-business rookie to selling a business

-stutterer to motivational speaker

Turns out I know how to change, I know how to make it simple, and I know how to stand on stage & make it fun so others want to do it too. Happy to talk dates and rates if you have an event.

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