Sir Edmund Hillary Told Me This - Lessons From a Motivational Speaker

I share this with empathy, not arrogance.

Stop blaming people for where you are and take responsibility for where you are going.

Sir Edmund Hillary, the first person to climb My Everest told me this 40 years ago in a little village in the Himalayas.

He explained this to me like this and I have never forgotten.

"If you fall into the habit of yielding power to circumstances if you say things like you don’t understand my situation is different; you don’t understand I have no choice in the matter..

then you are divesting yourself
of agency
of authority
of self-determination

You are 'literally' giving your power away. (He acted this out) Here, I give >> my power over >>>to you... and if you give your power away, you are powerless and powerless people become victims and he said, I never met a person with a victim mindset who lived the full life they wanted to live."

And this has become the inescapable truth for me too. Every person I ever met who did things they never thought they could do, said ...
-it may take longer
-it may be harder
-I might need to find a different path
-I might need to make my own rules
but it’s up to me to find a way.

They took ownership and the moment you decide to take ownership is when *SNAP* the magic happens. As any three-year-old will tell you, if I don’t want to you can’t make me but if I’ve decided to you can’t stop me.

So as sh*tty as it seems, stop blaming people for where you are and take responsibility for where you are going and feel yourself back in control. NOW you are in a much better position to make your situation better.