The Triple-Joey Method for Resilience - Insights From a Motivational Speaker

Most people think resilience is a personality trait.
Like being tall. Or left-handed. Or able to parallel park on the first try.

But it’s not.
Resilience isn’t something you are.
It’s something you build.

It’s a system.
A repeatable process.
A strategic choice.

Take the female kangaroo. She can raise three joeys at once:

•  One in the womb – an idea not yet born. 
•  One in the pouch – a fragile project that needs attention and protection. 
•  One on foot – a maturing venture already out in the world, still learning to survive. 

She’s not multitasking.
She’s pipeline-building.

Why?
Because nature doesn’t guarantee smooth sailing. Drought. Predators. Fire.
One joey might not make it.
So she builds capacity into her system.

Humans can do the same.
Especially when we’re reinventing, recovering, or starting something new.

When I started again at 50, I took a page from the entrepreneur playbook.
I had three ideas on the go:

•  Family Podcasting 
•  BoomerCasting 
•  Confident Video Presenter 

Only one made it. Confident Video Presenter.
The others? They quietly fizzled.

But here’s the thing: I didn’t stop.
Because I didn’t bet everything on one perfect idea.
I was seeding, not clinging.

That’s resilience.
Not bouncing back—but building forward.
Not avoiding failure—but allocating for it.

This is what I teach in the STEP UP phase of OWN UP – WISE UP – STEP UP:

Resilience isn’t grit.
It’s capacity management.

A Simple Formula for Building Resilience:

1. Start three.
(You need volume. Not everything will stick.)

2. Expect two to fail.
(Not a bug—it’s the design.)

3. Let the strong one pull you forward.
(When one takes off, you’re ready to go.)

Most people stop because their one big idea didn’t work.
But if you only plant one seed, you only get one shot.

Want this to stick? Think like this:

•  A school leaver or graduate shouldn’t apply to just one job or one university.
  Apply to five. Or ten. Or twenty.
  You’re not being desperate—you’re being resilient.
•  A midlifer trying to reinvent shouldn’t wait for one perfect opportunity.
  Start a blog. Take a course. Offer to help someone for free.
  You’re not scattered—you’re seeding.

Resilience isn’t about having more confidence.
It’s about having more options.

Want to double your success rate?
Double your failure rate. 

That’s not risky. That’s resilient.

Because when life knocks you sideways…
You’ve still got another joey in the pouch.

💬 What’s something you’ve been quietly building that deserves more attention? Hit reply or share it in the comments. I’d love to hear what’s in your pouch.